An Opening For Growth

When you hear the word rejection, the first thing that comes to mind is not being enough. What does this “not being enough” do to us? We think, that whatever is being asked from us, we cannot do, that we lack in something, that we will not be accepted for whatever we currently are. Not being enough makes us question ourselves.

Most of the time, when we do not want to question ourselves, we avoid it. We feel there is something wrong with questioning our abilities and our values, that if they’re inadequate or wrong in some sense, we as a whole are inadequate or wrong, and we start feeling insecure about it, hence most of the time we wouldn’t want to question it. We start to feel incomplete within ourselves, and that hampers our self-esteem and confidence and in general our outlook towards life.

But when we go through the process of asking questions to ourselves, a lot of things become clearer, rather than growing insecure about things, we become sure of them, we get to know where we lack, and we also find our ways to work on it. Questioning ourselves is like having a conversation with your own self, which only makes us understand ourselves better.

When we think about rejection, often only bad connotations of it are seen. We might end up not doing a lot of things just because we fear rejection. But rejection is not something we should fear, of course, it is not a pleasant thing to experience, and might be hard to get over or deeply look into, but like most scary things, this is something that we can learn from. This is something that we can grow from.

One should not take rejection as the definition of their character, or in a fixed way, where you only stick with being rejected. Instead, if we look at why are we being rejected, we realize that rejection in all ways, is never about how awful one is or how they’re not capable, it is about what you are and what you are not and whether you want to work on it or not. Even with saying all of this, sometimes rejection might just be bad luck, neither the universe nor you are to blame, in times like these if there’s not much you can do about it. You just have to let it go and not think about it too much but most of the time it is just a sign, of what to improve or what move on with. Rejection, if taken well is just an opening to walk ahead with betterment, an opening for growth.

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Arya Kulkarni

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